“Just Get Over it”!
Have you ever felt the pressure to “just get over it”?
That dismissive eye roll or deep sigh that belittles your trauma?
This impatience and anger towards the lasting effects of trauma are all too common.
Despite the spotlight on GBV, much of it remains superficial — mere snapshots or sound bites on social media.
We’re expected to navigate our healing journey alone, following a presumed linear path:
Suffer Violence - Feel Sad - Tell the World - Be Healed
Justice is seen as straightforward: report the attack, punish the perpetrator, and ‘get over it’.
When we express our ongoing struggles, we’re often seen as the problem.
We’re labelled as “downers” or dysfunctional for not fully embracing our survivor status.
Our very existence disrupts the happy narrative that all is well, and we’re cruelly reminded to just “get over it.”
This narrative is flawed
It assumes our healing journey ends once we declare our survivor status.
We’re given platitudes and expected to carry on as if we haven’t experienced life-changing trauma.
This is NOT our reality!
We need space to scream, shout, cry, and rage. Without this, our chances of truly healing are slim.
We’re expected to bear all, to be exalted as survivors, and paraded as “proof” that feminism is working.
Yet, once the spotlight fades, we’re left feeling the same:
Hurt, Violated, Confused, Ashamed, Alone
We don’t need to get over it
We need and deserve the time and space to process our trauma and integrate it into our lives.
Trauma affects every part of our being. It’s not something we can easily forget or brush aside.
Processing our trauma means working through the emotions and memories tied to our experiences.
We have to make sense of what happened to reduce the hold these memories have on us.
Through this process of integration, we find ways to live with our trauma without letting it define us.
It’s about reclaiming control and creating a new narrative for our lives.
We do not owe society our silence.
It’s not our job to protect others from the horrors we face.
We deserve to live full and meaningful lives that bring us love and happiness.
At TaleVox, we long for a space where we can safely feel vulnerable, where the ugliness of our experiences is not shunned.
We want to give voice to the horrors we’ve encountered and create a space for others to do the same.
Together, we can embrace our healing journey and support each other in finding peace and strength.
Join us in creating a community where we can heal on our own terms.
Let’s support each other in finding peace and strength.
With Love,
TaleVox
Marta & Tara
